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TOPIC: TRying to get pregnant but I need to loose at leas

TRying to get pregnant but I need to loose at leas 06 Dec 2011 19:18 #23

  • Jaeleigh
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Hi, this is my first time here and of course writing. I just turned 37 and I am just starting to think bout having children with my husband. We have been together for 10 years. We just got married last year. My gynecologist said that if I lost at least 40 lb. s, than my chances of becoming pregnant would be greater, which is helpful considering my age! But I am having real struggles with staying on a healthy eating pattern and exercising everyday. I can go for two months at a time, lose 10-20 lb. s but I go right back to where I started from afterwards. Then try again. I am so tired. I have been struggling with this for at least 15 years.

I met my husband at 26, when I was a size 8 and 140 lbs.. I had just lost 80 lbs on my own over a year and he had never seen me fat. I looked good. But as the years went on, I guess we got comfortable and I got older and it got harder, and now I am at 230.

So now I am 37, trying to get pregnant, and not only is the weight a health issue, but its stopping us from being intimate. My husband is not attracted to me at all like this. We have had so may discussions about this, and as nicely as he can be, has told me this. We have virtually no romantic life, not for years. We get along great in almost every other respect. He's my best friend. But he cant seem to understand that my weight problem isn't all about him, and he has never been overweight (he's a trainer and has a degree in exercise physiology) so he doesn't understand my struggle. He thinks food is to feed your body as fuel and thats it. Why eat chocolate if its not nutritious? He does indulge sometimes, don't get me wrong. but not for the same reasons I do I guess.

He tries to help me, he tries to encourage me, he has given me all of the knowledge to know what food and exercises are good for me, even cooks healthy dinners for me most of the time but when he doesn't or isn't around, its not so good. Not when I am having an off day.

Sorry about this long message, I just need some advice or help in anyway. thank you, J
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Re: TRying to get pregnant but I need to loose at leas 17 Dec 2011 12:47 #31

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Hi, Jaeleigh...

So sorry to hear you're going through this turmoil. It's always harder when those close to us don't "get it" - but just know you're NOT alone and there are MANY here who DO get it!! If you haven't already, I encourage you to read the book(s), the FAQ's, and the old newsletters - there are several articles that deal with family members and all.

And keep posting here - I'm sure others will chime in, too, the more these forums get going!
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